George Kelly

"A person is not fixed, static, or unchangeable. We are all capable of reconstructing ourselves."

"The way to understand people is to listen to what they are trying to tell you about themselves."

"We are all scientists in our own lives, forming hypotheses and testing them against reality."

"Don't just ask what a person thinks; ask why they think it."

"The future is something we construct through our choices and interpretations."

"Man is not pushed by his past; he is pulled by his future."

"Every person is a scientist, though most don't recognize it."

"We interpret the world through the constructs we have created."

"The basis of personality is not what a person does, but how he interprets what happens to him."

"To understand a person, you must understand their personal constructs."

"People are defined not by their circumstances but by how they make sense of them."

"The meaning of an event lies in how we construe it."

"We are our own architects of understanding."

"Don't tell me what you do; tell me how you see the world."

"Man creates his world through his interpretations of it."

"The person who seems completely fixed and unchangeable is simply not paying attention."

"Our thoughts create our realities more than our circumstances do."

"Communication is not about what is said, but what is understood."

"Each person carries unique ways of seeing the world that make them who they are."

"The psychologist must understand the client's world, not impose his own."

"You can't change a person by telling them they're wrong; you must understand their framework first."

"What we call reality is really just our interpretation of events."

"To help someone, you must first understand how they construct their world."

"We are experiments waiting to unfold."

"The person is the theory, not the data."

"Every relationship is built on mutual understanding of each other's constructs."

"A person's behavior makes perfect sense from within their own frame of reference."

"Growth happens when we're willing to revise our understandings."

"The anxious person sees threats in constructs that others see as neutral."

"Real change begins with changing how we interpret things."