John Bowlby

"The parent who can regulate themselves teaches the child regulation."

"We do not overcome the past; we integrate it into a larger narrative."

"The secure attachment creates what can be called a 'felt sense of home.'"

"Parental presence is more important than parental perfection."

"What begins as external support eventually becomes internal strength."

"The child who feels loved takes appropriate risks in the world."

"Attachment theory reveals that we are not meant to be self-sufficient islands."

"The conversation about attachment is really a conversation about being human."

"What we cannot articulate about our early relationships shapes our behavior."

"Secure attachment is the immune system of the psyche."

"The right presence can undo years of wrong absence."

"Children do not forget what was said; they remember how it made them feel."