Steven Hayes

Psychologist American Born 1948 (age 78)

American psychologist who developed acceptance and commitment therapy approach.

367 quotes

"You don't have to believe your negative thoughts to dismiss them."
Strength
"Flexibility of mind is more important than the absence of pain."
Wisdom
"The present is the place where choice exists."
Time
"Being human means being vulnerable; that's not weakness, that's truth."
Truth
"Your willingness to feel what you feel is your greatest strength."
Courage
"Progress is not about eliminating problems; it's about solving them."
Success
"Committed action rooted in values creates meaning."
Motivation
"The goal of life is not happiness; it's meaning."
Wisdom
"You can't control your thoughts, but you can control your attention."
Power
"Self-compassion is not self-indulgence; it's self-preservation."
Kindness
"Life is not a problem to be solved; it's an experience to be lived."
Philosophy
"The discomfort you feel is feedback, not a stop sign."
Perseverance
"Being in the moment is the antidote to anxiety about the future."
Peace
"Your history does not have to determine your future."
Hope
"Mindfulness is radical acceptance of what is."
"The mind's resistance to pain creates secondary suffering."
Truth
"Values clarification is the foundation of psychological change."
Education
"You are bigger than your struggles."
Strength
"Commitment without clarity is just stubbornness."
Wisdom
"The present moment is the only moment you can actually change."
Time
"Fear is a visitor; don't let it become a resident."
Fear
"Authenticity requires the courage to be seen."
Courage
"Your pain is proof of your humanity; use it wisely."
Wisdom
"Freedom comes not from absence of struggle, but from acceptance of it."
Freedom
"The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your questions."
Knowledge
"Commitment to values creates psychological strength."
Strength
"Life isn't about avoiding difficult emotions; it's about moving toward what matters despite them."
Motivation
"Your thoughts are powerful suggestions, not commands."
Power
"Resilience is built through exposure to discomfort, not avoidance of it."
Perseverance
"Acceptance means stopping the war with yourself."
Peace